Bullying is something that many of us have experienced at one time or another. OR maybe we bullied someone and didn’t realize it. Regardless, bullying needs to stop. I can remember being bullied in elementary school and in highschool, and those are memories I wish I could forget. People can be so mean sometimes. This is why we need to bring bullying to an end. How? By taking a stand! By teaching others that it’s not acceptable, and it’s not coll! Together…we can bring change!
First, we need to understand what bullying behaviour is.
According to the RCMP, cyberbullying “involves the use of communication technologies such as the Internet, social networking sites, websites, email, text messaging and instant messaging to repeatedly intimidate or harass others.”
- Here are some examples of cyberbullying:
- Pretending to be someone, by using their name.
- Sending mean or threatening emails or text/instant messages.
- Posting embarrassing photos of someone online.
- Making a a website to make fun of others.
- Tricking someone into revealing personal or embarrassing information and sending it to others.
What is social bullying? It’s when someone targets another’s reputation and relationships. Sometimes it can be subtle behaviour, however it’s likely one of the most common types of bullying among all age groups. ( All examples of bullying are courtesy of: http://www.stopbullying.gov/)
Here are some examples:
- Leaving someone out on purpose
- Spreading rumours
- Embarrassing someone in public
- Telling other children not to be friends with someone
- Verbal bullying
What is verbal bullying?
- Hurtful teasing
- Humiliating or threatening someone
- Racist comments
- Sexual harassment
- Physical bullying
- Pushing or Tripping
- Rude hand gestures
- Breaking someone’s things or taking them
Bullying in the workplace
If you didn’t think it exists, it does!
- Aggressive/frightening behaviour such as swearing, shouting, intimidation by threatening violence
- Spreading false accusations about a person
- Criticism, humiliation, invasion of privacy, slanderous comments, undermining, destructive rumours or gossip and making unreasonable demands
- Rude, belittling or sarcastic comments, for example, “you’re hopeless” or “she’s on her way out”
- Abusive, belittling or intimidating phone calls, emails, notes, etc.
- Baiting or unreasonable teasing, for example, singing derogatory songs and inserting the person’s name or using cruel nicknames
- Nasty practical jokes
- Deliberate and unreasonable isolation or exclusion from work discussions, communication or other work-related activities
- Ignoring the person
- Withholding necessary information or deliberately withholding work flow so that a person cannot carry out their duties
- Removing areas of responsibility without cause
- The site also lists examples of behaviour that, while unpleasant, is not classified as bullying:
- Expressing differences of opinion
- Making a complaint about a manager’s or other employee’s conduct, if the complaint is made through appropriate sanctioned methods and in good faith
- Occasional, one-off incidents which would be considered to be minor (losing your temper, shouting or swearing)
- Comments that are objective and intended to provide constructive feedback to assist the employee with their work
- Rigid rules consistently applied that are impacting employee engagement
- Poor communication or disagreements between employee
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